24 October 2012

1 it's just as easy for you to come to me as for me to come to you as for you to come to me


one of the great stories to emerge from my father's 40 years of working at the IRS is the story of how one time, when he was a revenue agent, a taxpayer told him, "it's just as easy for you to come to me as for me to come to you as for you to come to me."

this story has been used to illustrate many many things, but today i think it means that we mustn't make things harder than they are. 

my parents are coming to town randomly. driving up. i talk to my father and he details their plans.

gary: "we're not planning on eating or drinking or stopping. we'll just leave at dawn and drive until we get there!"

me: (thinking) wtf?

and for about a minute i try to talk him out of his hare-brained scheme with some tough talk. along the lines of "you should maybe drink something... it's not the end of the world if you have to stop and pee..." and finally, "... you're no good to me here if you arrive totally exhausted." 

none of this swayed him. the man is dead set. and i realize here that it is just as easy for him to come to me as for me to come to him as for him to come to me. and i have to respect that because this is his adventure and not mine. 

fortunately, my adventures allow plenty of time for peeing. because peeing, my friends, is key.